How to Talk to Kids About Safety at Childcare and Recognize Signs of Abuse

In the wake of the distressing sexual abuse allegations against Melbourne childcare worker Joshua Dale Brown, many parents are feeling anxious. If you're a parent or a carer with a child who attends an early education centre, you might be wondering what the best ways are to talk to your kids about body safety, boundaries and consent. Here is some practical advice to help you start these discussions — and what to do if something doesn't seem right.

How to talk to your child about preventing abuse

It's important to talk to your children about their safety, no matter their age. Experts say having ongoing conversations can help children understand when something doesn't feel right, how to respond to unsafe situations, and how to tell a trusted adult. Child protection organisation Bravehearts says parents and guardians should prioritise teaching these three core tenants to children:

• We all have the right to feel safe with people
• It's okay to say no if you feel unsafe or unsure
• Nothing is so yucky that you can't tell someone about it

Bravehearts advises teaching your child the correct language for talking about their body and emphasising that their \"private parts\" belong only to them. Associate Professor Divna Haslam, an expert in parenting and early child adversity, recommends looking for teachable moments in the everyday.

When children get older, Dr Haslam recommends asking your kids how their day went, did anybody break any of the family rules and did anything happen that you felt uncomfortable with.

What if you're concerned about your child's safety?

Dr Haslam said parents who are concerned about their child's safety should start by removing them from the environment. If possible, she recommends talking to your child about whether something has happened. Ms McVee has created a template to get the conversation going if you're unsure of how to go about checking in with your child about their safety.

Ms McVee says if your child does tell you about abuse they have experienced, it's important not to panic or overwhelm them with questions. Instead, she suggests responding with reassurance and support.

How to spot signs of sexual abuse

Dr Haslam said it's important for parents to watch for behavioural or emotional changes in children, as many may not speak up when they've been sexually abused. Here are signs Bravehearts recommends looking out for. And the physical signs could be.

What should parents look for in a childcare centre?

Dr Haslam says there are a few things you can look out for when choosing a childcare centre. Those include whether, and where, the building has CCTV cameras and the centre's floor plan.

For more information, head to this ABC story for some more practical advice to help you feel confident in your childcare provider.

Questions to ask your provider