Study Finds Link Between Stressed Parents and Teen Self-Harming

One in ten Norwegian adolescents has engaged in deliberate self-harm without intending to commit suicide. For the first time, researchers have taken an in-depth look at the correlation between stressed parents and self-harming in adolescents.

\"The most common form of self-harming is cutting,\" said Lars Wichstrøm, professor of psychology at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU). In collaboration with Tove Wichstrøm, an associate professor at NTNU and specialist psychiatric nurse, he has just published a new study on self-harming.

The study shows that the risk of adolescents self-harming increases if they experience their parents yelling or being negative or hostile toward them from an early age. Self-harming means intentionally harming oneself without the intent to commit suicide.

The study also shows that there are five times as many girls who self-harm compared to boys. In most cases, parents are unaware that their children are self-harming. Self-harming in the form of cutting can involve scratching oneself with a sharp object or cutting the skin with a knife. \"Head-banging is also a form of self-harming,\" Lars Wichstrøm said. This involves hitting one's head against something like a table. Another common form of self-harming is branding oneself with a cigarette or a candle flame.

Self-harming is an attempt to cope with an unbearable situation. Enduring physical pain feels more manageable than emotional pain. Self-harming is a sign of deep despair.\" Tove Wichstrøm, associate professor at NTNU and specialist psychiatric nurse

In the study, the researchers followed 759 children from the age of four to adolescence. When the children were six years old, they were asked how they perceived their interaction with their parents. A method developed at the University of California, Berkeley was used to interview children at this young age. The same children were interviewed using another, more age-appropriate interview method when they were 12, 14 and 16 years old.

The study shows that one in ten teenagers had engaged in deliberate self-harm without intending to commit suicide, while three per cent had such persistent and frequent self-harming that it met the criteria for self-harm disorder. The parents were also interviewed when the children were six years old and when they reached adolescence.

\"We do not know if something specific happened when the children were six years old, or if what the children described in the interview reflects a pattern of interaction that has continued over time,\" said Tove Wichstrøm. The researchers found that children who described their parents as negative and hostile had an increased risk of engaging in self-harm during adolescence.

The researchers also found that children whose parents reported stress in their parenting role had an increased risk of engaging in self-harm during adolescence. The study did not investigate general stress among the parents, but stress specifically related to the parenting role.

Both researchers highlight the importance of parents becoming aware of their own stress and negativity at an early stage, and how this affects the child and the parent-child relationship. Lars Wichstrøm believes that self-harming as a solution to emotional pain is a relatively new phenomenon, and that it is something adolescents learn from each other through platforms like social media or blogs.

\"I'm fairly sure that it did not exist many decades ago. Back then, people did not think cutting yourself was something that could relieve difficult emotions. Before self-harming was described online or in popular culture, it was not necessarily something people would think of doing,\" said Wichstrøm.

He believes it is important for adults to convey that when adolescents are struggling, the pain can be managed by talking to someone, taking a step back from what is difficult and learning how to regulate their emotions in different ways.

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